There’s a whole lot of hugging going on! I am on day 3 of Christine’s challenge for my two. Day one involved playing a lot of game cube. Yippee. Not. Probably didn’t hit 10 hugs that day but for the 10 minute attachment activity I did a different kind of holding for us. I lean back on the couch with the kid lying on a pillow on my chest, facing away from me, snuggled between my outstretched legs. We did this in therapy and it was weird. The idea is to concentrate on each other’s breathing and get in sync. It made S uncomfortable. Interesting. I discovered it’s very hard for me to sit still that long! So I use the time to pray over S as we’re cuddling. M was more comfortable with it but it was still hard for him to truly relax. 2nd day involved Scrabble and walking the dogs around the block. Today was cooking with S and going to the grocery with M. Working on the hugs. I realize they hug me a lot more than I initiate it. That’s the struggle for me. I’m not a big hugger. My family was not affectionate this way and I have to work on hugging my mom still.
You know this is a good challenge when my AT said she’d take it on with her foster daughter. Why does it seem like there’s that much time involved? It’s really 30 minutes per child. I think in the reality of laundry, meals, school, church, etc. setting aside that time and committing to it is a task. I’m better if I don’t wait until the end of the day when I’m fried and so tired of my kids! I even took Joshua out for ice cream so we could have some time together. I love that he’s 17 and will tell his friends he’s spending time with his mom. I’ve always worried that my bio kids have gotten lost in the trauma but they’re solid and awesome and I’m incredibly grateful.
Here’s to all the hugging moms in blog land. Thanks, Christine, for the challenge. You rock!