Yes, I survived 7 days of the 20-10-10 challenge. Surprisingly my hardest challenge was the 10 hugs a day and I didn’t really meet that all the time. I have kids who hug me, not the stiff-armed type, but the often insincere kind. Although it can be real and they initiate it most of the time. That’s my fault and something I need to work on. The cuddle part got easier through the week and their activity time was usually okay. I did play more Gamecube than I hope to for while. Played a lot of scrabble and took a few walks. Not too bad. But I realized, as a homeschool mom, I spend a LOT of time with them throughout the day. Not necessarily their chosen activity per se, but cooking one on one or having conversations, doing a chore together. We spend a lot of time together but I have to speak their love language. And then pray it doesn’t scare them off. The week hasn’t been too much worse for having done this challenge, but M is definitely struggling with deep heart issues. Separating him and S takes away his outlet for inappropriate feelings and he’s bottled up ready to explode. I told him he could tell our therapist on Friday how terrible his mom is for sending him outside. Hurry, call social services. I sent him outside to run off some energy.
All in all I’m glad I took up this attachment challenge. I see how far we still have to go and how much I need to work on my own stuff. Because you know they’re going to bring it out in ‘ya!