No Longer a RAD Kid?

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Is that even possible? Yesterday at therapy Mrs. K told S she was no longer a RAD kid. Unbelievably that news passed by without even a nod by S. Today I asked her about it. She said she didn’t believe it. Ah, there’s the reason. I told her RAD happens because of the lack of a healthy relationship in the early years of life. I asked her if she felt like she had a healthy attachment to anyone now. Her answer, to me and to God. Good answer! But I believe it is the truth. I do believe she is attached to me and we have a healthy relationship, not perfect by any means, but a give and take relationship. Proof? Our “guest” room is called the scrapbook room because I have all my scrapbooking supplies and paraphernalia in this room, along with a double bed. I hang out in there watching tv or reading or hanging with the kids. Last night I was watching TV and S plopped herself on the bed and promptly started chatting about something! It wasn’t done to annoy or interrupt me. She just had something to talk about and I was available. Glory be to God! My older kids don’t ask permission to come in and talk they just do it. That was the first time S has ever done that. M has never done that.

So can kids heal from RAD? I’m no expert, only a mom who has been in the trenches for 10 years. At one time, I would never have believed it possible but I’m living with the proof! So S asks me if she’s healed why does she still do many of the same things? Because those are old behaviors, ingrained in her, that she will need to continue to work on. I believe most of the time the motivation is different behind the behaviors. I also believe we are all products of our childhood experiences. So for S that means she is attached but will still have to work on unraveling the lies she believes about herself and replacing them with the truth of God’s word. She IS wonderfully and beautifully made. God DOES have a plan and a purpose for her life. We have a lot of work left to do and we’re starting to hit puberty so I’m prepared to hold on for dear life. But here’s to encouragement and progress!

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Comments

  1. GB's Mom says:

    And great parenting!

  2. Stacey says:

    How great for you guys. I know it has been a long time you have been working on this. It is a Praise to GOD and you. It is hard work and you guys made it through.
    Amen!!!!

  3. Kelly says:

    Wow. Beautiful post. She is an absolute doll. Love her glasses. 🙂

  4. marythemom says:

    Congratulations!!! When Kitty reached this point not so long ago, we had the same question (if she’s healed then why are we still seeing a lot of the same behaviors?). I like the way you explained it – I wish we’d heard that sooner instead of being stuck worrying that it wasn’t true or wouldn’t “stick.”

    Great news!

    Mary in TX

  5. Jen Yancey says:

    I love this.. i am SOO proud of S!! she is becoming a beautiful young woman right before our eyes! I praise GOD b/c he gave you the courage to preserver when you felt like you were at the bottom! What an amazing mom and woman you are!! Way to go S, i can’t wait to give you a gigantic hug the next time i see you!!

    All my love to you both!!

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