Traumaversaries. mine, not theirs

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Lisa posted about traumaversaries here. I have believed what she said and tried to connect it with my kids, sometimes wondering because many of their “traumaversaries” are unknown to me. Well, last night I had my own light bulb moment…..for my own traumaversary. (I’m trying to see how many times I can write that word in one post.) I was out of sorts yesterday. It was my 24th wedding anniversary, Tim has been sick, I just haven’t been on my game. It was not the best day. I cooked a special dinner, S baked a heart shaped cake, still not real exciting. I was literally crawling out of my skin, irritated at the computer and everyone else. And then at the end of the day, after everyone was in bed, it hit me. February 15th, today, is the two year anniversary of my dad’s death. I hadn’t even remembered it but apparently my body did. I guess I can have a little better understanding of the triggers my kids have. Theirs are obviously on a much bigger scale but it gave me something to think about.

Dad, I miss you.

Hope you and Mom are dancing a jig after being reunited.

I’m still trying to honor you both in the way I live my life and how I handle the circumstances with mom’s death.

I love you.

Always,
Your baby girl.

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Comments

  1. Jen Yancey says:

    thanks for the tears!! i miss them so much too!! LOVE YOU LOTS!! and i’m so grateful for you!!

  2. the cavclan says:

    My grandfather passed away 2 years ago the 13th of Feb. I am so sorry for your loss….believe me I get that one.

    hugs from CO!

  3. Lisa says:

    I get it too but it sure took me a while.
    Be very gentle with yourself and don’t forget to shake. 🙂

  4. Barb G says:

    ((((Marty)))), mine falls in the two weeks between my Mom’s birthday (April 30) and the day she died (May 16). Of course, Mother’s Day falls in between. One of the reasons we celebrate Mother’s Day in early April, instead of waiting for the traditional date.

    As hard as it is, I’m thankful that your traumaversary gives you insight into the workings of your child’s mind. May God use this knowledge, this empathy, to grow you all closer to one another. Praying for you, dear one. You are in my thoughts and prayers often, during this difficult time for you. (((hugs)))

    Barb

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