FAMILY LIFE presents:The Art of Marriage
Tim and I went to a marriage conference at our church the weekend before last even though he was still sick (bronchitis he’s had for over a month). I tried to give the tickets away but he wanted to try and go. I thought, great, a marriage conference where we’d be fighting since he’s sick. Joshua offered to babysit so we could go to dinner beforehand but Tim wasn’t hungry. Good start.
The conference turned out great, Tim said it was the best one we’ve ever been to, and we got to spend a day and a half together. Win-win!
Here’s the link to the website. There are a lot of articles on this site, in addition to the details of this conference. The way it was presented was through “stories, real-life testimonies, man-on-the-street interviews and humorous vignettes.”
It was all video with just a brief insert before each session by our pastor. The rest of the time was spent doing “projects” with your spouse, ways to apply the principles and ideas we were learning. It was nerve wracking at first! Even though Tim and I spend a good deal of time together it was a more vulnerable way of communicating and being together. It was rediscovering each other without the stress of our to-do lists and interruptions.
As I read back through the book I am struck again by some of the thoughts God impressed upon my heart. I was also always mindful of the fact that my oldest is getting married in six months. How I wish I was as prepared as she is!
Here are some thoughts that made me think:
The ultimate purpose of marriage is to reflect God’s image.
“When two people are on a horse, one of them has to be in front. – Dennis Rainey
“A person (who) says ‘I’ll meet you halfway’ is a poor judge of distance.” – Michael Easley
“The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of Christian, but the fact that I am a Christian does make me a different kind of woman. For I have accepted God’s idea of me, and my whole life is an offering back to Him of all that I am, and all that He wants me to be. – Elisabeth Elliot
Set your spouse free from the debt of the offense. (Don’t continue to punish your spouse. Forgive and move on!)
Rebuilding trust is not automatic; it takes time, patience, and grace from God.
S*x is like a thermometer…it is primarily a by-product of your relational intimacy. If there is selfishness, irritation, and frustration in your marriage, these things will come into your marriage bed as well.
“Children are the living messages, we send to a time we will not see.” – Neil Postman
Such good stuff and so easy to forget in the stresses of our daily lives.