We always tell our kids that the teenagers in our family are fun to be around. For the most part that is true. Obviously with all that went on with B her teenage years were stressful for us and certainly not any fun. So I have wondered when S got to this point what things would be like. I’m thrilled to be able to say with gratitude that with her tremendous leap in attachment she is doing great and appears right on target to being another great teenager!
Our tradition that we started with Rachel is to allow the newly anointed 13-year-old to pick any restaurant they want and Dad and I will take them out for a celebration. This was the biggest surprise for Rachel because obviously she was first! But it has been 5 years since we did this with Joshua so S had forgotten about it. Her biggest stress was deciding on the restaurant though Olive Garden won out and I was thrilled! S’s plate was about as big as she was!
We gave her a frame that had The Chastity Ring pledge on it. She and I have obviously talked about many se*ual issues due to her and M’s history with their sister B. As I talked to her on her birthday I emphasized that God gives us a “do-over” and will honor the intentions of our heart. She has to make the decision to remain pure from this day forward for the man God has already picked out for her.
We gave her a “True Love Waits” ring and later she took pictures of her ring. On the inside of the band it says “Forgiven.” I felt at that moment God was reaching down to touch our situation and our family and S and remind all of us that the past does not rule us unless we let it. Once we truly seek repentance God wipes it away. I believe S has done this. I see it in her eyes and feel it in her spirit.
Welcome to the world of teenagers, my daughter. We look forward to watching you grow in grace and wisdom and beauty. You are loved!