(I’ve decided that I’m a FREAK! But some of you knew that already! I braved the world of chaperoning and helped with S’s soccer team on Saturday. After the game 3 chaperones took 13 girls to the local shopping center. They changed clothes in a restaurant bathroom (that was a feat in itself!) and then we spent the next 2 hours walking around and shopping. The girls were 4th through 8th grade so there was a wide range of maturity (both physically and emotionally). After shopping all of us ate at a local restaurant and that was a nice change of pace on a Saturday night for S and us.
The freaky part for me: I don’t shop. I go to Wal-Mart, Target, the grocery store, the thrift stores and yard sales. (Okay, I do go to the craft stores, too.) I do not wander around stores looking for something to buy. We have no extra income for “frivolous” things. My kids always got teased when they were young (and S still does) that they’d never been to the mall. I realize for some kids this is bonding time with their parents, but I have much better, cheaper ways to bond with my child.
It’s not that I didn’t like all the beautiful jewelry and clothes that I saw. I did. A lot. But that temptation to spend is great, even for an adult. Imagine how much more it is for a kid with peer pressure. I’m so grateful my kids are homeschooled because especially with my 2 youngest, peer pressure would overpower mom and dad love in a heartbeat. I’m not saying that shopping is bad. It can be tons of fun, but if I spend money we don’t have on something that doesn’t fill me up nothing good can come out of it. If I did have tons of money I doubt I would do much more than I do now because I believe God has given us a responsibility to use our money wisely and invest in things that count.
(S did get some clothes from Target for her birthday and needed to exchange a couple of things. So we shopped there, took some time and tried on a few things. I didn’t see any dramatic change in who she was for having the experience!)
I don’t feel deprived of anything. I like the hunt for a good bargain and watching God provide for our needs (and often wants) because He loves us so. There are many things I would like to do if we had extra income but most of those involve fixing the house, getting new carpet, new siding, boring adult responsibilities.
Some of the girls asked to go to Victoria Secret and the girls’ coach was going to let them. Ummm, no. They’re not. I’ve actually never been in there but the last thing I want to be responsible for is taking girls as young as 9 in that store. Change of plans.
I did buy S and I a pair of matching earrings at this adorable jewelry store. $10 for both. Pretty reasonable I felt. But did it make us closer and bind our hearts together? Nope, it was just something she did with the girls and I was there as home base.
Oh, by the way, my kids have tons of clothes. They don’t go without anything, but they may not have everything they want. That’s okay. Welcome to real life, kiddos.