Do You Love Your Adopted Child as Much as Your Biological One?

Recently on a Facebook post I received the following comment. I find it difficult to get past the distinctions in your children: my daughter, my grandson (those ones are really yours), my adopted daughter, my adopted son (these ones you're allowing to live with your family). Don't you think they see this? I've never heard of anyone doing this … [Read more...]

Let It Go: The Song God Keeps Teaching Me

I started this post last Christmas because I knew my husband and I were headed into a season of uncertainty. The single lyric of Let It Go was stuck in my head and for good reason.  Tim was scheduled for hernia surgery followed by rotator cuff surgery in early December. As a painting contractor that meant a six month recovery and … [Read more...]

Our Teenaged Son was a Runaway

I have been paralyzed for over a week. Unable to write a word or formulate a thought.  I'd find myself staring at the floor for untold moments. Only feelings of grief and shock.  You see, this past Tuesday, April 28th, our 16-year-old adopted son became a runaway. Our son is the youngest of a sibling group we … [Read more...]

Unafraid: Why I Went to See a Therapist

When I started this post several days ago I had no idea that our lives would again be filled with a new crisis with our adopted son. I just knew I needed help coping with my own feelings and hurts God had been revealing to me. As we continue to walk forward with our son, loving him and getting him help to continue the process of healing his … [Read more...]

How my Adopted Daughter Inspires Me

  My life changed when I decided in 2008 to have the courage to share our adoption story. It wasn't a pretty story all wrapped up with a bow, but a story of heartache and loss, perseverance and God's faithfulness. The lows were gut wrenchingly low and the highs were the ultimate sweetness. As I read back through some old posts … [Read more...]

Mother’s Day Love for Adoptive Moms: Simple Gift Sunday

  For the last three years I have traveled to Orlando, FL, to meet up with some amazing women who are adoptive and foster moms. These women are uniquely drawn together through the bond of parenting wounded children. Children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD, and for many of our kids, just one of their diagnoses) is unlike any other … [Read more...]

Steven Curtis Chapman “When Love Takes You In”: Simple Gift Sunday

I cannot even begin to tell you how much I love these pictures. They take me to my knees with gratitude for the gift and responsibility we were given when God called us to adoption. From a place of emptiness and loss, through the work of loving a wounded child and nurturing them back to wholeness, God has redeemed and blessed … [Read more...]

Lessons Learned in a Corn Maze

What do you do when you want to find a fun activity for your family? You buy a Groupon, of course! I purchased a buy one get one free groupon for the local corn maze in our area. Thinking I was being smart, I bought two deals which gave me four tickets.  That was for us and our younger two. I had already talked to our married duaghter and she … [Read more...]

Life Changing Words for Adoptive and Foster Moms

  I received a surprise email from someone who found my blog through one of the DIY/Crafty blogs I link up with each week. It was from an adult adoptee/former foster child. My heart immediately started beating faster and my thoughts raced.   Imagine my surprise when the letter below came to my email address. I can only warn … [Read more...]

Five Minute Friday: Stretch

1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking. 2. Link back here and invite others to join in. 3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this … [Read more...]

The Truth Behind Homeschooling

I am probably not your typical homeschooler. When I first began 18 years ago I was way more structured and rigid. I even got my daughter a little school desk for her to sit in. (And apparently, according to my husband, I made her call me Mrs. Walden. Neither she nor I remember that, thank goodness!) The desk lasted all of about two days. Her little … [Read more...]

52 Lists in 52 Weeks #29

List #29: Blog Memories This blog of mine has evolved quite a bit from its early days in 2008. Here's a list of posts that give insight into my crazy life! I'd love if you'd join me for a trip down memory lane! Very first blog post. I had no idea what I was getting into! Chick-Fil-A Cow Day #1. Still celebrating every summer. This year … [Read more...]

Camp and God’s Chisel

I haven't talked much about how my youngest two did at camp for a week. S went to the girls camp and M the boys camp, both Christian, mission oriented camps.Their experiences were radically different.S got in the car after I picked her up and was chatty and keyed up, totally normal teenager stuff. But within the first ten minutes she began sharing … [Read more...]

About Me

Thank you so much for visiting my little corner of the blogosphere! What started out as a little family journal in 2008 has turned into a passion for sharing my life, faith, dreams and adventures as a homeschooling, crafty, bargain hunting, memory keeping mom of both biological and adopted children. Our history is scattered throughout my … [Read more...]

Adoption: Transformed from the Inside Out

      As I watch my adopted daughter heal I wanted to share a moment that reached deep into my heart today. Yet I believe only with true perspective can you understand how we reached this relationship. As the mother of a wounded child I want to give encouragement and hope to each of you who struggles with adoption and the … [Read more...]

What does Reactive Attachment Disorder look like?

I could find pictures from every vacation we've ever taken since adopting and find matching pictures to the ones below. Our RAD children heal slowly but find comfort in old behaviors. You know, the ones that send their trauma mamas into orbit. I decided to blog about it this year because it is so consistent with my son's beliefs and fears. Walk … [Read more...]

What Healing Looks Like

Sometimes my S amazes me with her insight. She often struggles with word finding and expressive language, but she tries hard and is still working on it. Yet she often finds just the right things to say. As we were in the car driving to the orthodontist's office we were talking, as usual, about choosing to look at the positive things in … [Read more...]

Vacation and RAD

 No matter how far I believe we have come or how much healing has taken place things happen that smack me in the head and remind me that my attachment challenged son has not arrived.This year another family (with a RAD kid) graciously invited us to share a beach house with them at Kitty Hawk, NC. It's been 12 years since we've adopted and vacation … [Read more...]

Simple as That May 19, 2012

As parents of adopted children who struggle with attachment and relationship issues the picture below brings me to tears.  Tim's birthday was May 18th and we had a small family dinner. S had written him a letter for his birthday and it had the same effect on him. (Wish I had a shot of her face.)This picture was taken a few short months after the … [Read more...]

Purple Ink

S got mad today when I corrected her writing. The first thing I pointed out was how neatly she wrote. It was immaculate.  But then she started the first sentence of her writing with an incorrect word and it was downhill from there! She is very sensitive when I correct writing because that feels very personal to her. I realize that writing can be … [Read more...]

Homeschooling Children with Attachment Disorder

  Trying to sum up 18 years of experience with homeschooling both biological and adopted children is a daunting task but here is my best advice for you mothers homeschooling children with Attachment Disorder. (You can read more about our journey parenting wounded children through my adoption archives.)  What are your … [Read more...]

Repeat Posting

I'm on a scrapbooking retreat this weekend but I wanted to share a post I wrote last year about this time. I was at a crossroads, wondering if 11 years of parenting my RAD son even really mattered. To you trauma mamas who parent this kind of child day in and day out, I want to encourage you. My son has changed a lot this past year. More than I ever … [Read more...]

Trust Meter

My husband says I have trust issues. I told him he has control issues. Half in jest, I asked if one is better than the other. Which got me thinking about trust.We all have dysfunction, baggage, junk, issues, "quirks." Some of us own ours. Some of us don't.My question is simple. As an adoptive/foster mom or mom of a blended family, do you trust less … [Read more...]

Many Sides to Adoption

Lots and lots of thoughts roaming around. Have patience with me while I sort through them. Be gentle with me if you don't agree or can't understand.Because of the Circle of Moms contest many different voices are being heard regarding adoption. These can only be of benefit if we listen to each other's stories and find a safe place without … [Read more...]