A few weeks ago I had a bloggy “friend” name me as one of her “Blog of Shame” winners. Between her twisting my words and her commenters taking me apart for my parenting, or lack thereof, it was some rough stuff. I did check her blog recently and found that the blog posts she had written with the label “Blog of Shame” are gone. Apparently someone else she “honored” had been in contact with a lawyer and that person had been checking out her blog. She then chose to take out those posts and move them to a safe spot that only she had access to. Sounds like a God thing to me. I did not retaliate in any way or engage in a shouting match. Most times it’s best just to let God work things out in His own way.
One final thought: if she wants to be taken seriously as an adult adoptee, then maybe “shaming” the Prospective Adoptive Parents and Adoptive Parents wasn’t the best way to go about it. Seriously?? I’ve known few people to change because they were attacked unmercifully. I know that by taking a risk and putting myself out there I open myself to criticism. But if an adult adoptee honestly wants me to take their feelings and experiences seriously they need to be respectful in expressing their opinion. I completely agree that I have no idea what an adult adoptee feels, and unless they have personally adopted themselves they have no idea what it is to parent a child with attachment disorder and many other diagnoses. It is not fair to lump every adoptive parent in the same category. Our experiences are all different and our children are unique to us. Every adoption story is special and to manipulate someone’s words to prove a point reveals a weak character.
I blog to encourage other women on this journey of motherhood. If my words offend you or make you mad, please move on to a blog you can support. There is enough pain in this world to go around for all of us.