Home » faith » Simple Gift Sunday » What Makes a Good Marriage? Being Broken Together

What Makes a Good Marriage? Being Broken Together

This post may contain affiliate links which won't change your price but will share some commission.

What makes a good marriage? Here’s a poignant story of years of brokenness and being remade through faith in Christ.

A cake sitting on top of a table

Today is my 28th wedding anniversary.

28 years. Almost three decades of living life together.

A vase sitting on a table

Fights.

Makeups.

Morning breath.

Childbirth.

25th Wedding Anniversary from Marty's Musings

Just ordinary lives lived through extraordinary stories.

I wish we had an inkling of what we were getting into when we got married on that Valentine’s Day many years ago.

25th Wedding Anniversary from Marty's Musings 

We were ill-prepared for the sacrifices needed to survive.

Dying to myself was not a concept ever presented to me before the wedding.

Wedding and Bride

I wish the woman I am now had stood hand in hand with my husband all those many years ago.

There were just two broken people promising to love, honor and cherish.

Valentine Tablescape from Marty's Musings

Completely ignorant of the vows we promised to each other.

I wish I could say I didn’t ever think walking away had to be easier than staying together.

Or that my husband didn’t.

Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together

A close up of a camera

Brokenness amidst our arguments and selfishness.

Words slung in anger aimed to pierce the heart.

We became experts in the art of wounding the one we pledged to love forever.

Being right was more important than mending the relationship. 

25th Anniversary from Marty's Musings-1

I know that I serve a God who takes the broken pieces and puts the puzzle back together in His perfect timing.

If you can bring your shattered dreams and I’ll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us

A cake sitting on top of a table

I can say with joy that today my marriage is better than ever.

Two hurt people parenting wounded children has changed us.

Challenged us.

Broken us to be remade in Christ’s image.

What makes a good marriage?

The only way we’ll last forever is broken together

25th Wedding Anniversary from Marty's Musings

We choose to faithfully stand by each other through both trials and triumphs.

Exactly as God intended 28 years ago today.

 

(Some of the pictures are from our surprise 25th wedding anniversary vow renewal service, and the bride and groom are from my parent’s wedding.) 

(If you are reading via email or reader just click on the post title to view the video.)

What do you think about when you look at me
I know we’re not the fairytale you dreamed we’d be
You wore the veil, you walked the aisle, you took my hand
And we dove into a mystery

How I wish we could go back to simpler times
Before all our scars and all our secrets were in the light
Now on this hallowed ground, we’ve drawn the battle lines
Will we make it through the night

It’s going to take much more than promises this time
Only God can change our minds

Maybe you and I were never meant to be complete
Could we just be broken together
If you can bring your shattered dreams and I’ll bring mine
Could healing still be spoken and save us
The only way we’ll last forever is broken together

How it must have been so lonely by my side
We were building kingdoms and chasing dreams and left love behind
I’m praying God will help our broken hearts align
And we won’t give up the fight

Similar Posts

9 Comments

  1. Happy anniversary! Your story sounds a bit like mine and pushing through the bad made us realize it was all worth it , because we are at a better place.. May god continue to bless your marriage

    1. Hi, Jamala, thank you for commenting and encouraging me. Marriage is definitely worth the struggle of imperfect people living and loving together. Blessings to you!

  2. Part of your ministry to so many comes from the example of your marriage….so expect ATTACKS. From you know who. But how lovely is the story of the overcomer………by the blood of the Lamb and the word of their testimony. This is the message I hear from this most gracious and encouraging post. Happy anniversary and many, many more….Suz

    1. Thank you for your wise words, Susie. I definitely know as God continues to grow my ministry and blog that Satan will use anything to attack and dishearten. I appreciate the words of truth spoken here. Blessings!

  3. Happy Anniversary! Thank you for sharing your story with us!! My husband and I definitely had a broken marriage but really worked at putting it back together. For us, we didn’t date long enough and didn’t really get to know each other. After getting married we found out things about each other we didn’t know! We had a pretty rough start. We now have 2 daughters, 2 wonderful son-in-laws and 4 beautiful Grandchildren!

    1. Hi, Lisa. All marriages are broken because we are all imperfect, broken individuals trying to live with someone that is usually totally different from us! What a blessing God has given you and such a testimony of faithfulness. Blessings to you!

  4. This was fantastic to read! Thank you for sharing your story! This brings hope to many young couples who are just starting out. Wishing you many more years of happiness!

    1. Thank you so much. I do hope our story will encourage others to persevere through the difficult times because marriage isn’t easy! Have a blessed day!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.